Citalopram Has Ruined My Marriage (Page 2)
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A while a ago my daughter was being bullied at school, which drove her to take an overdose, thank fully she was ok and is doing fine now. But my wife took it really hard and started to suffer with anxiety so the doctor gave her citalopram. Instantly I noticed a change in her attitude, she just turned so hard faced and cold toward me, then what was a healthy sexual relationship turned to a relationship with no sex at all, I've tried to tell her that this drug has changed her but she is not interested, this drug had changed her from being a normal loving mother/wife to a woman who needs no love or affection. And now after 15yrs of being together she wants a divorce, to sell the house and go our separate ways, I am absolutely devastated I can't imagine my life without this woman I have loved for so long, but it's the medication im dealing with not my wife, she's in there some where but I can't and don't know how to bring her back. I love my wife and would do anything to keep her and not get divorced but it all seems to be falling on deaf ears. Is there anyone out there who knows what I can do? I am heartbroken and don't want to leave her in this state but she is adamant that we split immediately.

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To all who read this research cytokines and dysfunction of the immune system. Deregulation of brain structures can cause depression. It's likely biological and few dr.s in mental health accept this. It took 50 years to discover peptic ulcers were caused by bacteria not emotional stress. Childhood fear and trauma can cause alteration in brain STRUCTURE as can hidden viruses and bacteria. There is a link. SSRI's flood all parts of the brain even the ones that don't need it. Talk theraphy to deal with changes you need to make in your life and a nutricianist as well as cortisol test to seeif immune system is over active would be a good place to start.

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Steve,
What is an AAP? I'm unfamiliar with that acronym. On the Ted Talk series's there is a woman who was dignosis a physcoprentic and after years of treatment was able to identify and deal with the trauma that brought on the symptoms. I think these symptoms are brought on as a protective mechanism and to tell us something is wrong. I also thing in some cases it could be a brain stucture difference and since the young brain has plasticity it can be altered. Truth is medical profession wants to give a pill and forget about it but in many cases it too years for these thing to built and to think flooding the brain with seratonin is the answer is wishful thinking if they really thought about it using critical thought and look at the true outcomes as to efficacy. It's the only thing they have and big pharma is not likely to give up the billions even if it means lives.

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Steve, thank you so much for your kind words. My heart goes out to you as well. So many I've talked to said the drugs don't really work but enable to blunt the depression so they can function to some degree. Not sure if you are familiar with TED talks but I encourage you to go on as they have so much good info there. I've found some info on vitamin D3 and fish oil that if you are defishant it can make remarkable changes regarding depression. Also negative ion air purifiers raise seratonin levels. They cost about $100.00 and was proven to work by israli Dr. In the 1950's. This is a personal observation/theory that we develop depression angxity and other symptoms because of trauma, injustice etc that happen to us early in life and create shame, helpless and hopelessness that must be worked through and felt with and ultimately self compassion must be embrased because most of the time you had no control as to what happened. Be kind. Especially to yourself. Each and everyone of us has worth. Even as our imperfect selves. Your contact info was blocked. I'm so driven to do something about this as people must be given options to keep their emotional heath just as important as their physical health. Acute stress was a huge factor in my son's situation.

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Mari,

I am with you 100%. As someone who's been in the mental health system since I was a child, the care and diagnosis I received for many years has been a cruel joke on top of a cruel illness. I attempted suicide many times, my arms are covered in scars from self mutilation, and I've tried over a dozen psychiatric medications. Some I remember making me much more suicidal then I had been with no concern from my doctor.

I've been on a Lexapro xanax combo for over 10 years but have never felt great, just enough to keep living.

I'm so sorry for what you've been through, it's more then anyone should have to endure. I don't know if there's anything I can even say, except I know some of what your son felt. The pain is unimaginable and I can only hope he's at peace. Please don't feel at fault. You did everything you could, and I'm just as frustrated about doctors prescribing these medications that can have catastrophic results without even a basic understanding as to how they work.

My SO was manic for months before she allowed me to go with her to an appointment. As soon as I read my list of observations her diagnosis was changed to bipolar I, but she still wasn't given the appropriate medication and ended up in the hospital a week later.

The system is broken, the meds are a roll of the dice, and there is zero information provided. I was just prescribed an AAP today from my doctor of 20 years without any information.

If you'd like to talk sometime I'm on {edited for privacy}.

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Hi Steve,
Though my research I now know this can be a possibility I did explain to the prescribing Dr. that there is a family history in bipolar on my father's side of the family but she dismissed me. One of the main problems I have when these personality changes occur if one is not educated as to what it could mean the people closets to the patient and who know them best have no way of know what it means. Another is they don't tell people about the extreme difficultly coming off the drugs or that research shows pretty compelling evidence that the structural brain changes can be permanent and not for the good necessarily.

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I found this thread last year when I was trying to figure out what happened to my girlfriend of 9 years. She started taking this medication for fibro pain, and the person I knew and loved for so long ceased to exist almost overnight. One week we were getting married and buying a house, the next she wanted to break up out of the blue.

My story mirrors a lot of others on this post. Change of personality, lack of empathy/emotion, cruel /cold/callous, angry, irritable, atypical behavior, drinking and driving, extroversion, and eventually breaking up and putting her life at risk having unprotected sex with strangers (the day after breaking up over text message).

What I know now is this drug brought out latent BIPOLAR DISORDER. Antidepressants are known for inducing bipolar episodes in those predisposed to the illness. My SO had never exhibited this behavior in the 9 years we had been together, there was no suspicion of any kind of mental illness. Unfortunately once an episode takes hold it's almost impossible to get through to them. They may feel great, totally justified in their new feelings, convinced they've always felt this way, and their memories become distorted to the point that they can't remember how things actually used to be.

The treatment is mood stabilizers and anti manic medication. It's an urgent situation that requires immediate attention! My SO has been out of the hospital and off citalopram for 4 months now and while doing better is still not back to herself. Finding the correct combination of medications takes time, as does healing from an episode. She may never be the same, and our relationship was catastrophically destroyed, but at least she has a fighting chance at life now.

That last post about feeling like you hate one of your kids just smells like bipolar. I've heard parents describe the same thing before. The anger and irritability changes how you feel about everything. It's a very treatable illness, get some help & best of luck!

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This is absolutely heartbreaking :'( I wish I could say something that would somehow help you. So sorry for your loss. I got shivers down my spine & the hair stood up on the back of my neck reading this. your poor boy :(

I came across this thread after a google search, I was on citalopram & after upping my dose from 20mg to 30mg I ended my 7 year relationship & started drinking & smoking & started a sexual relationship with someone new straight away (Id never so much as looked at another man while in a relationship) I eventually realised the medication was changing me & stopped it, however 3 years later I still feel like a different person, i don't feel like i have any real emotions. I feel terrible saying this, especially considering what happened to you, but i feel like i hate one of my own sons :( Before citalopram i was a brilliant mother, i am a different person & i hate it, i doubt i will ever be the old me again. i feel something needs to.be done to spread the word about the devastating effects of this drug

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My 17 yr. old started taking 5mg then on to ten. 2 weeks in he stopped talking to me. Completely changed in personality. I didn't know what I was seeing. Not until I did 11 months of research. No call from the doctor to me the 4 weeks he was on it. 4 weeks to the day of starting this he hung himself in the garage. Don't let these doctors tell you this med is ok. Get counseling, CBT, embr therapy. Supposedly it's better for adults but unless you are hospitalized I'd try anything else first. Mindfulness CBT is a good thing. Too late for me. They don't even know how the drug works.

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I indeed share your sympathy Sir, as I have also been in a very long r/ship for 17 yrs with a man who is ruined since I knew him from Cipramil and MIrtazepine! He has mixed all kinds of anti deps with alcohol since I knew him in 97. Now he has been prescribed the Cipramil once again, he suddenly left me, no word, no prior warning. The last time I saw him was more than 13 days ago, when he forced me in his car to show my ID for a loan @ Masters Hard ware store, here in Adelaide, he forced me to buy his dinner, this happens often, every 2 weeks, then I don't hear from him, he changes his cell numbers and avoids me. I found out he has been cheating on me for the 4th time now, and this time I saw the evidence on the internet, a dating site "Badoo' where he met yet another single mother, this time with 'money'. So he only visited me in all my rental properties, for sex, money and that's it, until the sex stopped completely for a few years and now I know why, he has someone else to share this with and time. He became very verbally abusive, physically abusive and financially abusive, he never paid any money back that he stole from my pension. I just reported him to the Police last Friday, as I had enough of the Domestic Abuse and Violence, I have been 'led on' by this con artist, con man, and little did I know that the personality he had was always changed due to anti deps, and alcohol and other substances which I never found out about, but I know now who he is, he is a pathological liar, a serial cheat, and traitor, he has abused me so much that I cannot walk anymore, he has sexually abused me in way that ppl do not believe, and physically. He is a monster, and can I blame anti deps? I can blame the doctors for not recognizing he is a psychopath and sociopath, and that he is now with a woman who has a business with money, and he is going to use her too but he won't bash her like he bashed and hit me, cos' any other woman put stick this prick in the 'Big House' as soon as he lay a hand on her. I am the only woman he has physically abused, he is a con man and should be in jail, thanks to the anti deps. and methamphetamine he is taking!

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Wow sounds like my ex we were happy as and had a great life, he started taking them foe aniexty - and after 3 months on them he left me and my kids - after being separated after 13 yrs he now has a new girl friend and lives with her after 4 weeks - he's never said sorry or nothing no feelings at all

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I knew it would not take but seconds to find a story like mine. I married my high school sweetheart and raised awesome kids. My wife found out about this med from her mom. It is a crime that general practitioners can prescribe this medicine. My wife started taking in 2011. I encouraged her to seek counseling but she avoided that mostly. Towards the end of the marriage I insisted she meet with a psychiatrists to be sure she is on the correct medications. She was prescribed something new but never took it and opted to stick with this medicine that killed the personality of the woman I married. We are now divorced. I truly believe she is more sick and turned into a narcissist with zero remorse. Told me she loves her medicine more than our marriage. She has acted so strange over the past few years that any normal person would assume she is cheating on me but sadly for her that not the case.

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Same problem with my relationship of 17 years with my partner Steven. Since he has been taking cipramil, and mirtazapine a few years ago, his whole personality has changed to a cold narcissistic spineless psycho sociopath, exhibiting explosive personality disorder, verbally abuses me, talks dirty, has cheated on me with dirty women from dating sites, and pulls away for a hug, no emotions, no remorse, no compassion, no personality, he is having sex with different women, and has now coldly 'deserted' me after I found out all the women he is 'bedding', via the internet and in rental flat when he drove me there. He is taking other drugs, syringes and alcohol, baby diapers, and tampons! And it appears he is dating younger women, who put their baby in his flat (risk assessment), for child protection, and he is 49 yrs of age, and is absolutely beyond help, since confessing 3 days ago he is on this drug, and possibly other drugs, street ones. He has changed his cell numbers, his land line, and I saw him 4 days ago, he is no where to be found, just disappeared! Stole money from for the whole year, possibly to buy drugs and he never paid me back. The old Steve has gone, the new one is highly dangerous, "Keep Away, Highly Medicated"!!!!

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This sounds so like my wife! She threw me out months ago started seeing a druggie bloke and is now in danger of losing the kids, can anything be done about these awful pills?

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My partner of 13 yrs, just up and left us me and our 2 kids, we had a great life, and were doing well, of course the kids being 6yrs and 11 yrs, would fight all the time and he lost it went on these terrible pills 3 months later left us, Im heart broken, no warning nothing, he's 32 so not too old, and didn't want sex, was grumpy and short at us, couldn't sleep, just a a-hole, now he's gone from our own home and a great life to his mums, and she lives in a council flat, thats like 70 mtr squared, and sleeps on a swab, and is as nutty as a fruit cake, Man I miss him, man his doctor is a prick. I met him once and gave him this crap, now me and the kids are screwed, and sad.

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This page is good. My wife, mother of my two boys has morphed into some disagreeable person. Constant dissatisfaction with petty issues ranging from misplaced magazines on the coffee table to towels on the floor. She has never been an OCD person and any serious cleaning in our home is done by me. She gets waves of resentment and focuses on the most petty issues to chastise me. There seems to be some internal control struggle she's dealing with and projecting all her problems on me. 20 years of compliance and understanding on my part is coming to the end. I have envisioned a future where I find my own sources of personal enjoyment. I'm not talking about infidelity here, simply about realizing that the pleasure derived from customizing a motorcycle eclipses any intimate bedroom activity we've had recently. I've sort of switched off from her as I've just recently realized how she subtly controls our relationship through her 'not right now' regulations between the sheets. Manipulating tactics have been going on for years and don't get me wrong, I know that this behaviour goes on in most relationships. It's dealing with it that is the real relationship growth skill. But just now this interaction has slipped from engaging behavior to actively goading me and all grace is evaporating.

I have warned her that i'm aware of the bulls*** game she is playing. She has had a complicated sexual history before we got together and sex has always been a little awkward. I thought this would improve but there's a selfishness there that isn't making it fun. Then she tells me that she's coming off the citalopram again and it's me who needs to be more understanding. I've had issues, a stress related breakdown years ago. So I know what you need to do to break the negative feedback loops of depression. And number one solution is behaving responsibly. Identify triggers and avoid going there. I don't think she has the personal resilience to get her s*** together. I'm going to hang on here for the foreseeable but unless she decides to make more of an effort to make our relationship work it's most likely time to make a change.

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My wife has been on Celexa for a few years now. Our relationship is in ruins. She has destroyed her relationship with my parents. She treats me terrible. The only reason I ve stuck around is my daughter. I m trying to get her off the drug but shes not listening. I need help. Is there a class action against this Drug?

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I have tooo. someone needs to put HOME WRECKER on the pill bottle. MY wife kicked me out 2 days before fathers daY.,

when I saw this it opened my eyes to why my wife started being mean to my daughter from my previous marriage.

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I have experienced the same thing as this guy, My wife has turned evil, she threw me out 3 days before fathers day......the woman I married would NEVER have done that.. its a WONDER drug alright - I WONDER why the FDA ever passed it.

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this is a very incorrect medication for to many symptoms with potentially irreparable life time of anguish.

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I am actually the one on the medication at the moment 40mg I have changed so much in myself my partner who I worshipped I now feel irritated by when she has done nothing wrong. Like I am suffocated by her. I want to feel like I used to and am planning on coming off this medication to see if I can change at least a little back to how I was. I actually hate that I can't give her the love she deserves. If I cuddle her it feels fake and like there is nothing in it. There really should be she has done everything for me. The feeling of coldness is not nice. I feel like I'm out of control. I am hunting other girls i dont care who i just feel like i need to mess around and thats not what i want to be but the urge is so big. When it comes to it i usually cant because of themeds and even cuddling new girls is no feeling. I used to love cuddling. The best way to describe the feeling being on them is confusion frustration and lack of care. Not a good mix! The other night I drank a 1.25 litre bottle of sambuca without care. Still don't care. Not healthy not good I don't care. It's the knowing that I should care that has bought me here. Will post an update in a few weeks or months when I'm off them. I'm on them for social anxiety. They have helped to the point I feel like I am a danger to myself as I have a burning desire to feel alive and that's all about being crazy isn't it? I am going out of my mind

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