My Wife Has Changed

A while a ago my daughter was being bullied at school, which drove her to take an overdose, thank fully she was ok and is doing fine now
But my wife took it really hard and started to suffer with anxiety so the doctor gave her citalopram.
Instantly I noticed a change in her attitude, she turned hard faced and cold toward me and treated me as if I was not there, then what was a healthy sexual relationship turned to a relationship with no sex at all, I've tryed to tell her that this drug has changed her but she is not interested, this drug had changed her from being a normal loving mother/wife to a woman who needs no love or affection. And now after 15yrs of being together she wants a divorce, to sell the house and go our separate ways, I am absolutely devastated I can't imagine my life without this woman I have loved for so long, but it's the medication im dealing with not my wife, she's in there some where but I can't and don't know how to bring her back. I love my wife and would do anything to keep her and not get divorced but it all seems to be falling on deaf ears.
Is there anyone out there who knows what I can do?
I am heartbroken and don't want to leave her in this state but she is adamant that we split immediately.

Anyone who has been through this or any GPs please help?

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I'm very sorry to hear what's going on with your wife. I would be devastated myself if I were in a similar situation....I'm sure anyone would be. At this point, the best advice I can offer from an outside perspective, looking in, would be to have your daughter help change her mind and persuade your wife in some kind of manner.

If she would sit down and listen to how your daughter felt about her taking this medication and how it has changed her for the worse, I'm sure that will have more of an impact than anything. These prescription drugs can wreak havoc on relationships in general, so if worst comes to worst, I can only pray that you find someone who chooses to live a different lifestyle and has a different approach to medication or natural alternatives when she is in need.

I hope this helps in any way, shape, or form. Just know that whatever is meant to happen is meant to happen, because you're doing everything in your power to keep her there.

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Have you considered that it might be the trauma of your daughter's attempted suicide which has made your wife change towards you. The symptoms you are describing could quite easily be depression. Would your wife be consider relationship counselling?

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I'm dealing with a similiar situation, but I think my wife has been taking 100mg of Zoloft daily. My son whose 20 got on the synthetic drugs and we have had problems with him. My wife says she's out of love and wanted a divorce, its just crazy. I feel for you, I did talk some ladies that know her & are trying to talk to her about counseling after 23 years of marriage I'm doing all I can. These anti depressant drugs, Zoloft, xanex and all are destroying peopls, marriages, families and more. Pray for Gods help & ask for favor. AS a Christian prayers are heard.

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I have found that this can be a problem with taking SSRI Anti-depressants - ask her to talk to her GP about a possible change in the prescription. As harsh as this may be this is something that she might need - depressed people are weak people and it could have just been that this is what she felt would make her happy - they cling , they need reassurance and love. Is she losing her affection and love towards your daughter or JUST you? You need to ask about going to the doctors with her - general relationship counselling. Her coming off the tablets may just put her back into a depression. It's hard to say what the motivation is and I do not mean any offence but sometimes you have to look at things from an outside perspective as hard as that is. I found this site purely because I was looking up whether I needed to go back on Citalopram that my doctor recently prescribed. This week I feel fine and confident things will get better but that doesn't mean I won;t feel differently next week - it comes in waves. I worry that it will have a negative affect on my personality as it has with people I;ve known in the past - one friend I knew had a love for music and creating and lost all joy for it and stopped. It's distressing to think that the drugs will change you and who you are and your feelings. It's instructed that is doesn;t but who knows the reaction any one given person may have. DOn;t blame yourself if your relationship has been a happy one until now - but maybe she hasn;t been happy for awhile. Just as was said above - ask your daughters and her close friends opinion - share your concern with them and ask for an honest answer. You may not like it but at least you will know for sure it wasn't her mind being addled by drugs.

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Call her doctor and tell him about her change of attitude.

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Interesting. As an outside observer, I wonder about how happy your family could be if your daughter tried to commit suicide and now your wife, like several women on this site, have decided to divorce their husbands after taking anti-depressants. It's not my intent to be insensitive to your feelings, but I just wonder how happy could she or your daughter have been if one tried to kill herself and the other is leaving you. We see all the time how some drugs have very unintended side effects, but I think you would do well to listen to your wife first and/or get into couples therapy before blaming it all on the drugs. Women often will stay in an unhappy marriage out of commitment to their children. When the nest becomes empty or when the kids show that they are suffering as well, Mom is most likely to end the marriage. Sounds to me like you and your family need a good therapist. And if you genuinely love her, you will either make the changes needed or let her go.

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Go with her to the Doctors together.
It does meds with your feeling for towards sex many drugs do that.I Think its great you've stayed by her side, many men won't.Don't judge her, just perhaps suggest that before you make this drastic change that they could TRY AND SWITCH
the medication
I wish you all the best.I respect you for standing by her instead of leaving.
Colette

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