Lostforwords

Updated

Hi, I live with someone that has Chronic Back Pain and takes quite a bit of Oxycodone a day, well at least I consider it to be a lot. What are the side effects of this drug? It seems that the person is always irritable and very hard to approach or talk about any subject. I feel so sad that we can not even have a conversation and there is always a tone or yelling involved. I am learning to just keep my mouth shut, I feel sad and confused most of the time. It seems that I have lost this person to the drug, I feel like crap most of the time and that I no longer am important to this person. Actually the truth is he is addicted to the drug he is being prescribed. I feel like I am walking on EGGSHELLS everyday with this person, I know I am not crazy, this is really happening. I feel at a loss for words and just keep praying that he will come back. I would love some feedback from maybe someone else that maybe going through this or another drug addicted person that is taking the drug there addicted to as well, I am starting to believe this drug is evil, they are taking 150mg a day now. What to do? What to say? Do people that take the drug they are addicted to, continue to lie? I would just like someone to speak the truth and talk straight to me. Am I wasting my time trying to have a relationship with a person that I feel I have lost? Can someone just be straight out blunt with me. Thank you and God Bless You!

6 Replies

Earliest Newest Votes
1

Your not crazy their are two things we as chonic pain patients go thru, 1st the pain never goes completely away, then we want to be as mobile as possible but to do that we end up taking more meds, then were afraid of getting booted out of our pain clinic for being short, then we are really worried about the pain and how sick we will be if we don't get our meds. And unless the doctor really hers US and we request what we know works, they act like they don't hear us and give us something that doesn't work as well. Then if we call the office over an over to try and get a response they get pissed off about that. Now There very well may be all that, that pretty much consumes our life's, but there is all the regular life stuff. So if somehow you can say if you ever need to talk I'm here. If they are not in a pain clinic for lack of insurence. Omg its really all consuming cuz then you have to find them illegally and they cost 3x more if you know someone who will even sell them. If this person is not in chonic pain...rehab rehab rehab offs are just a harsh an nasty drug. I'm on a Fent patch and 15ml oxy for breakthrough pain, I'm trying to call my Doctor right now to get switched off this crap. And now I am in fear she will be mad and not want to deal with me anymore. Do you see now, it all sucks unless you have insurance and a very patient doctor who is willing to get you on the right formula. Oxy is stong but not worth it they raise your tolernce in a matter of days its a horrible vicious cycle that can make anyone mean or just want to give up.
I hope things get better. Blessings.

Was this helpful? 0
2

Hi justbelieve,

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to talk to me about this subject......I do have many questions and would love to talk to you or hear more, are you a woman or a man? Well it dont matter I really dont care at this point, again thanks for sharing!!!

Was this helpful? 0
3

I'm a woman, its just nice to have someone who really understands our struggles. Hopeing the meds work? Hopeing not to have breakthroughs pain and getting on something else. Worring about how long our tolerance will last. Basically tied to the ain clinic, what if they close, just stuff added to our everday life's

Was this helpful? 0
4

your not crazy, you might be at a loss for words, but it sounds like you don't understand chronic severe pain. not the kind when you stub your toe, or have a toothache type pain. no, chronic pain sufferers will tell you of a completely different pain, one you won't believe exists, one you can't see and one they can never fully explain. the type of pain that takes over your whole life, the kind of pain that you go to sleep with and wake up to every morning. the kind of pain that will take you to the depths of depression and have you making choices you would never make before. the kind of pain that interrupts relationships and marriages, severs family and friendship ties, and leaves you thinking no one could or would ever understand. The kind of pain that has removed all the joyful things from your life, like taking a walk, dancing, playing with your kids, riding a bike, etc. When all of the therapies, surgeries, IV's, and other means of relieving pain have been tried,and failed and all your left with is medications, the kind that steal your life and leave you a slave to them are tried, you get irritable, you hate to be irritable, you hate what has become of your life. You hate how you treat the people you love. I do, I am. I am angry at a medical profession that would promise pain relief at the end of a scalpel, but leave you in even more pain with nothing but bills, your back full of screws, pins, and rods and a good scar to show for your months and sometimes years of recovery hoping for pain relief so you can have a reasonable chance at a quality of life that people without chronic pain take for granted. next time you bend over to pick up something on the floor, how painless it is, or picking up your child to hold and kiss, or to make love, think about how chronic pain has taken these simple things away from us, maybe you would not be so judgmental, and maybe you might understand (just alittle bit) of what we suffer through 24/7 with no hope of it ever getting better, and why we might be a little cranky when our doctors think we don't need our medications and that we are just junkies looking for a high. I hope you can be a little more patient with your loved one who is suffering right along with you. Don't give up, don't give in, be kind to one another, and God Bless You.

Was this helpful? 0
5

I'd like to point out that there is a difference between dependence and addiction, so you have to know which one you're dealing with in such a situation.

Dependence can occur with anything that someone ingests regularly, because their body gets used to that substance being added, thus it would be someone just taking the prescribed amount of something, but perhaps suffering some withdrawal or rebound effects, if they miss a dose and it is totally normal and is expected to happen.

Addiction, however, is something different. Someone who is addicted abuses the substance in question. For a narcotic analgesic, this would mean that they like the way it makes them feel, but since those effects wear off as their body gets used to the drug, they have to keep taking more and more to get those effects back. This would cause severe withdrawals if they miss doses, the type that could put them in life threatening danger.

Thus, that is the first thing you need to look at. Is the person taking more than they are prescribed, or are they just using the amount their doctor tells them to take?

Learn more Oxycodone details here.

If they're only taking it as prescribed, then the moodiness and attitude are most likely just side effects of the medication, coupled with the pain they are in.

However, if they are abusing it and really are addicted, then they do need help.

Was this helpful? 0
6

To verwon: i can understand your posting the difference between dependence and addiction, and i appreciate the post. My situation is not about addiction, although I use my medication as prescribed, i have found that it does not take my pain away. I also have had many problems with tolerance, as what used to work, no longer does and i have had to increase my dosage many times to get the same pain relieving relief. My irratability is mostly because of my situation and how frustrating it is. I hate what my chronic pain has done to my relationships with my family and my friends.

Was this helpful? 0